July 28, 2017
Dear freshman Neya,
Hello! How are you? This is Neya from the future and I’m here to tell you the things you should know.
High school has been really harsh for you. You were not able to fit in with any group of people because you always thought you were different. And that’s pretty much true because you have a very different personality and that’s completely fine. But now you’re out of that place and you should just forget about it.
You know where you will see this personality blossom? In college.
College will become a life-changing experience for you although you don’t realize it yet as you are very lost in what you want to do with your life or what major you should choose. You are torn between doing what your parents want you to do and what you want to do (even if you don’t know what that is). You should know that this is a very normal thing for someone who is about to go to college. Everyone’s lost when they enter it and so will you.
But you know what else I know? International Business is not what you really want deep down. Trust me on that. Don’t be too stubborn about it. Just listen to me. Your mother might want what’s best for you because she wants you to have a better life than she has and you need to understand that. On the other hand though, it is your life and you are the one building it. Starting from college. Don’t believe me?
So how about this? What if I told you that during your freshman year in college, you will be changing majors THREE TIMES? You don’t believe me now but you will believe me later. You will be torn between what you want to do and what your parents want you to do. But let me tell you something else. Your parents do not pay thousands of euros on tuition just so that they can see you fail on your courses and you know that. What your parents want is not what you want and that is something that should be stamped in your brain because you are too stubborn for your own good.
Your parents are asking you how are you going to find a job as a graphic designer. Don’t let that scare you because jobs exist out there but you just need to search for them. And yes, you heard me correctly. You will end up being a graphic design major after going from International Business to Communication to Graphic Design and you will freaking love it and excel in it!
I guess what I’m trying to say here is that you should stop relying too much on your parents’ opinions. This will make you feel depressed and stressed. Something that you really don’t need during college because you will have other things to worry about.
In college, you will make a lot of friends too. I know right now you fear that it won’t be easy for you because of your experiences back in high school but college is different.
Here is something to think about. During the first day of classes while you’re waiting to go inside your Digital Image class, you will meet your future best friend who came to Greece all over from Arizona for study abroad for one year and she will give you a lot of inspiration, memories and get you into photography. Here is something else. I know that you’re a huge hugger and that you love hugs. What if I told you that during orientation day, you will meet a guy from Texas who will give you free hugs every time he sees you?
Also, take note that in college you will meet two Egyptian girls who will be your friends and they will be the reason you change your majors. But you will thank them later on.
I can see that spark in your eyes and yes, all of these awesome people will be in college waiting for you to meet them. But there is a catch.
You will need to defeat the demons that tell you that you will not make any friends when you start. Forget high school, that’s in the past. I mean, why remind yourself of it? In college, everyone will want to be your friend if you want them to. You will meet different people from different paths of life from different countries with different things that they will want to share with you. And you, my dear, will love it and embrace it because you know you have a curious mind. I mean, you should be curious. You’re 18 years old now. The perfect age for you to be curious and explore.
You should be really open minded when get into college because you will hear things that you’ve never heard of before or never thought of. But that won’t be of any problem for you. Right?
And don’t get me started on the things that you will accomplish during your freshman year in college. Vice President and Vice Editor in Chief for the Gazette club during the end of Spring semester? It’s a journalism club if you’re wondering. Sounds neat right? Or getting accepted in the honor’s program before your summer sessions end? How does that sound? Or winning an award with the club you’re part of in the Awards Ceremony. Does that sound like you?
But yes, this will be your freshman year. But it will be your freshman year only if you stop doubting yourself. I know you’re doubting yourself right now thinking “What the hell is she talking about?” But I’m telling you right now that these are the things you will accomplish during your freshman year if you really want to.
The thing about you Neya is that you were never a risk-taker. You are too comfortable in your comfort-zone and this is something that you should change. You doubt yourself all the time. You stress about pointless things only to realize how these things are very simple. Even if college needs a bit of stress to keep you going, you take stress to the next level. To the point where you black out and can’t think of anything. This has to stop. Because if it doesn’t stop then you won’t accomplish anything. Not only in college but in life in general.
Learn to take more risks. It’s time for you to take your life into your own hands. You might still be financially dependent on your parents but you have to start making your own decisions from somewhere.
Take college as a new opportunity. An opportunity to make a first impression to everyone around you. You were shy and not so sociable in high school. But now it’s the time to show to the new people that you will meet the confident person that you really are. Like I said, it’s a new first impression. So, take advantage of it. College will be your life for the next 4-6 years so you should make the most of it. Show people your skills, what you can do. Choose the major that you actually want to. Not because your parents want you to but because you want to. These will be your selfish years so make the most of them.
I know that this might sound ridiculous hearing it from me but trust me, I know what I’m talking about and you should listen. You should start realizing that you will not be happy if you study something that you don’t love. You will fall into depression again, just like you did in high school and you don’t want that at all. I’m telling you this now because I want you to see your potential. Just like every other human being, each and every one of us has a different type of potential and it’s type to discover yours. Take risks and you’ll see yourself grow into the person that you want to be.
Don’t slack around. Because I know you will. Those student loans kick in quicker than you think so make the most out of your college experience. And when it comes time to pay back those loans look into all the different options for saving money, like refinancing. Keep working and for the life of me, DO NOT BE AFRAID TO TAKE RISKS! Whether you’re going for bungee jumping or wanting to wear black lipstick in school just because you feel like it or eating a jar of Nutella during Valentine’s Day while you receive weird looks from everyone. Just do it.
Anyway, I really need to get going now but for the life of me, you lovely stubborn human being, I hope you do the right choices because your own choices are what will make you happy in the end and what will make you grow. Until next time!
Neya from the future.